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Diana Robbins's avatar

Such a thoughtfully penned piece, thanks for this. As a first time mom to be at 40, 28 weeks along, it’s been wild - after all these years - to see my body changing so drastically. It feels so out my control, and it’s a bit scary what’s to come. I appreciate knowing at least that we aren’t alone in it.

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Mel Elsdon's avatar

My daughter is three and I only really felt myself in my body maybe last year. I really want to give her a sibling but the thought of feeling that your body is not yours/ you don't recognise it anymore is scary. it will happen but the thought of knowing how postpartum goes, is a hard hurdle to overcome to start all again!

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Jade Fox's avatar

I get that. I don’t think I felt it until my son turned 3… which coincided with him finally sleeping.

For me, I find comfort in knowing how I don’t want to feel. What can I control this time that I didn’t consider the first time? And what’s important to you and your health/mental health?

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Mel Elsdon's avatar

That’s so true (that you know what you don’t want to feel) or even just knowing the process now and not going in blind like a first-time parent. Thank you! It is comforting knowing that you and others feel the same! :)

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